It’s A Cautious Relationship

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Your Relationship Might Be A “Cautious Toxic”

 

A cautiously toxic relationship is one that should not be ignored.

A situation that is at this level of toxicity must be addressed. You will note things like feeling controlled, not recognizing yourself, a feeling of overall unhappiness, and, most times, putting yourself last for the sake and the avoidance of conflict.

Education is necessary for you to understand your situation for what it is as many times the toxicity becomes worse should you decide to change the relationship dynamic as they will sense the loss of control, which increases the intensity of the manipulations. 

 

“The Toxic Person” is a blanket term I use to indicate a person whose personality or character traits are not healthy for you or others when involved in a social or intimate relationship, thus a “toxic relationship”.

Each one of us have the right to decide who is healthy for us and in what capacity people are allowed in our lives.

Toxic people, like all of us have insecurities, and to make up for those insecurities they have a strong NEED for control, power, attention, and admiration.

Toxic people only feel in control of themselves when they are in control of the people and the situations around them thus, any and all things they do in the work environment or outside of it will reflect the behaviors that achieve this.

Their constant desire for control will result in manipulations, lies, and other unhealthy tactics to fulfill their needs with no concern of how it affects others.

Toxic relationships do not discriminate. We see them in every culture, every gender, every social class and yes sadly every type of relationship.

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Dr. Heidi is a toxic relationship survivor herself. Her experience has led her to being able to help others understand their own circumstances, and find hope and peace in how to deal with them.

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What are the key indicators of a toxic relationship?

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What Type Of Relationship Are You Currently Questioning?

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Being involved in a marriage or intimate relationship where toxic traits and manipulation occurs is devastating. This is a relationship that you have invested in. This is a relationship that you were lead to believe was or is “the one”, this is a relationship that you have committed to and stepping out of it would be going back on your word, your commitment, your promises and would disappoint and affect the lives of others.
Truth is, love is kind, anything other than that is most likely not what you were looking for when you found this. As a human, you seek intimacy, openness, and you seek the feelings that go along with both. Toxic relationships are not kind, they are not intimate, they are not open, and the feelings that go along with them are not the ones you were hoping you would find in a partner.
The hardest thing about accepting that your relationship may be toxic is that toxic people have a different plan for the relationship than you do. They are not seeking love, intimacy, openness or kindness. Rather they are seeking control, power, attention, and admiration for the fulfillment of their own needs regardless of what that means for you.
You will give them the benefit of the doubt, you will hope they change, you will give them chance after chance after chance to prove to yourself that this relationship will someday be and make you feel exactly as you had hoped.
In the end you find yourself trying over and over, working harder and harder only to find yourself in the same place. Trapped in a relationship of you giving and the other taking. Becomes exhausting.

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Toxicity is found in any type of relationship which includes those that have work at the center.
Working with toxic people can be detrimental to not only your career but also your overall self-worth, confidence, and health.
Just like your home, your place of work should be a place that you enjoy going to. You spend much of your time there and you want to be productive and fulfilled.
If you are having trouble concentrating on work, performing at work, even going to work because of the way another person at work treats you or how others make you feel, you may have found yourself in a toxic work environment.
Just like toxic people in other types of situations these types of workmates can ruin lives, careers, and futures.
Toxic people seek control, power, attention, and admiration. They are willing to sacrifice others for the betterment of their career or the betterment of their appearance with no concern for the feeling or needs of another. Manipulation, criticisms, and self-centered tactics can make working with an unhealthy personality unbearable.

 

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Being involved in groups of friends, acquaintances, and social circles is what makes life exciting, keeps us interactive, keeps us open-minded and allows us to be involved in the community, school, and children’s extracurriculars.
All that sounds like a happy life until you realize that some of those you spend time with may not be healthy for you, they may not bring out the best in you, or you may find that you compromise your values, don’t feel yourself, or change who you are when you are surrounded by different groups of people.
Toxic friendship can sneak up on you. You may not realize they are unhealthy because they are just friends. It is not intimate, they are not family and you don’t need to be obligated to them in any way.
Or do you?
Do you find yourself worrying about what others think, about what they say about you, about how they see you? Do you find yourself overdoing to get approval or to fit in? Do you put up with criticisms or put-downs just to be part of the group? Do they get jealous when you spend time with others?
These are all things that may prove a not so healthy friendship. Sadly toxic relationships come in all relationship forms and friendship is one of them.
Breaking up with friends, changing social circles, and cutting back on community or school activities can be difficult as it is part of your life. The question is how you remain within the friendship, social circle or school functions without the toxicity of others affect you?

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Being raised in a family that is toxic is a difficult way to begin your journey. Why? Because growing up and living in an environment that is not healthy will not be perceived as toxic because you see it so often. When you are exposed to the mistreatment daily it becomes your “normal”. Once one becomes used to the surroundings and has adapted it takes another level of toxicity or mistreatment for it to seem unhealthy.
Children raised by toxic parents, guardians, or growing up with toxic siblings will struggle with the way they see themselves. Many times the most emotional child will be the one that has the hardest time. Children always want their parents and families proud of them and in a toxic environment, it is no different. Always striving for more, to be better so the family will be proud is a cycle that some are never able to be free from.
Those raised in a toxic environment will not only accept less than they deserve but may also see what they get as all they deserve. Self-esteem and self-worth are jeopardized from the start for those continually striving for approval from the family. Even into adulthood they may find themselves always trying to keep the peace, fix the conflict, or give continually with little or nothing in return.
To be in a toxic family is heartbreaking, the ones who were supposed to be your strength and support eventually become your weakness. Leaving family is hard when they are healthy and even harder when they are toxic. Guilt and obligation keep many trapped within the “family” when that is actually where the danger lies.

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